Thursday, January 26, 2006

New Poll

After several months of ignoring the little green box, I've decided to stop being boring and lazy and put up a new Poll.

It's a question that I know has had a lot of air-time on other blogs and it intrigues me, because I find it very weird and uncomfortable to be nearly 8 weeks away from giving birth and yet still considering myself infertile. I know why I feel this way: its a statistical anomaly that Spud exists at all and if we want to have another child we will undoubtedly be back at the IVF Clinic. Nevertheless, the pregnant infertile role still doesnt sit right and I have arguments in my head about it all the time, which I can assure you gets rather rowdy.

What do you all think? Are infertility and pregnancy mutually exclusive states? Is "infertile" such an integral part of your persona now that you cant let it go or do you want to forget the path you had to take to achieve your dream of having a child?

10 comments:

  1. I can't find the poll.

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  2. I refuse to consider myself infertile. I hate it when people lump me into the 'infertile' column in their blogrolls, too. I can GET pregnant, just not stay that way. To me, being infertile is comparable to planting a seed and nothing happening. With me, it sprouts, then fizzles out. But it does do something.

    Port, it's at the bottom, way down on the right. :-)

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  3. ps For that reason I didn't vote. Didn't see an answer that I felt described this.

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  4. Well, infertility doesn't go away, even if you have a sucessful birth-I mean, in my case, my tubes are crap, so, even if I am able to have a baby, I'd have to do IVF if I'd want more-my tubes wouldn't miraculously uglue themselves just because I delivered a child.

    I guess, in some cases, and in some instances of IF diagnoses, there are women, who, once they've managed to have their first child, have gone on to have unassisted and successful pregnancies. I just think that they are the exception, not the norm.

    It's like being an addict-no matter how long you've been clean, you always consider yourself an addict. No matter how many babies you have, if you need medical assistance to get them there, then you're infertile.

    I know that it probably sounds harsh, but that's the way I perceive it.....

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  5. Although I gave birth to my son, It was absolute Hell trying to stay preggy long enough to get him here. Since I haven't been able to stay preggy since - I would still consider myself infertile.

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  6. I still consider myself infertile even though I'm 10weeks pregnant. It took injections, ultrasounds and blood tests not to mention being monitored by a fertility specialist for me to get this way.
    Panda - great poll, got me really thinking.

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  7. I will most certainly be getting myself checked out again for baby no. 2(I know it's projecting but I do want more than one kid). One of the first things I am going to do when I move back to Oz is see an ob/gyn and try and get on their books. I am fully prepared that I may need to have treatment (more clomid maybe) to conceive again, even though this pregnancy was done naturally.

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  8. I think you can be both. I wish that pregnancy was the end of infertility and the end of anymore worries leading to the birth of a healthy child but it's not.

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  9. Well, infertility doesn't go away, even if you have a sucessful birth-I mean, in my case, my tubes are crap, so, even if I am able to have a baby, I'd have to do IVF if I'd want more-my tubes wouldn't miraculously uglue themselves just because I delivered a child.

    I guess, in some cases, and in some instances of IF diagnoses, there are women, who, once they've managed to have their first child, have gone on to have unassisted and successful pregnancies. I just think that they are the exception, not the norm.

    It's like being an addict-no matter how long you've been clean, you always consider yourself an addict. No matter how many babies you have, if you need medical assistance to get them there, then you're infertile.

    I know that it probably sounds harsh, but that's the way I perceive it.....

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  10. I refuse to consider myself infertile. I hate it when people lump me into the 'infertile' column in their blogrolls, too. I can GET pregnant, just not stay that way. To me, being infertile is comparable to planting a seed and nothing happening. With me, it sprouts, then fizzles out. But it does do something.

    Port, it's at the bottom, way down on the right. :-)

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