Saturday, June 03, 2006

Bits n Pieces

Homework

I made myself an appointment with the Mental Health Midwife last week, certain that I was in fact the only woman on the planet experiencing life with a newborn. Yesterday was time to go and spill my guts on what life with a 4kg spud is like, and why I feel like a failure.

In addition to telling me to stop being so damn hard on myself and start treating myself the same way I would a friend who was going through all this, my midwife has given me some homework. I have to make a list of all the things I'd like to do with an hour to myself per day. A whole HOUR! Just for me. With no baby and no husband to get in my face. Woohoo!

So what do I want to do with that hour?
  • Shower. A long one. Long enough to shave my legs, coz the Amazon called and they want their forest back.
  • Lie in my hammock in the sunbeams (if we ever get any again) and read a frivolous book or crap mag.
  • Lie in hammock and drink wine or somesuch.
  • Go for a walk somewhere picturesque.
  • Mess around with my collection of shells and beads and make some perdy things.
  • Mess around with my photography.
  • Sleep.
  • Sort out my wardrobe into "can wear now" "can wear later" and "get over it, you'll never be a size 10 again" piles.
  • Then realise I dont have a thing to wear and go op-shopping for divine new yummy-mummy attire.
  • Ring people. On the phone. And talk to them. Actual people. That I actually like.
  • Potter in the garden. Though at the moment this would entail a flame-thrower to find said garden and then a slasher to make it accessible enough to potter within.
  • Make yummy baked goods like a 50s Domestic Goddess.
What other things might I accomplish in one hour of baby-free time? Everything else I can think of is kinda longer term stuff like, I dunno, renovating the bathroom...


Bosoms Akimbo

The bosomry issues continue. I gave up on the Fenugreek because it gave me nosebleeds. I tried the anti-nausea drug Maxolon, which has the side-effect of increasing milk supply. I gave up on that when it made me so tired I could barely sit up. In addition, it gave me...umm...digestive issues. After a week I think it started to work, but I literally didnt have the energy to feed, which kinda defeats the purpose. Yesterday I was given a script for Domperidone, another drug like Maxolon. I wonder what the side effects of this one will be?

So far, I've been giving Spudly 60ml (2oz-ish for those of you living in the time of Charlemagne) of formula after each breastfeed, and I've been trying to space the feeding to three-hourly. Its working more or less. What is DEFINATELY working is the formula. We have a different baby. He's chilled. Totally chilled. Falls asleep after feeds. Might wake up again but doesnt scream. Instead, he smiles and coos and gurgles and is divine. And he still sleeps 6-8 hours at night.

However much I wish I could provide him with everything he needs myself, you cant argue with a contented baby. Well you can, but then you'll just upset him and he'll vomit on you.


Ch-ch-changes

Spudly has started to discover his hands. He clasps them together in front of his face and stares intently at them, moving them around and quite clearly trying to figure out what they're supposed to do. He's also started mimicing our facial expressions, and talking to us. He actually said "coo" the other day!

He's a freaking genius!

12 comments:

  1. I like your list and wish I could help you do as many of those as possible. (Internet babysitting?)

    Here's an idea. Set up a shower above the hammock. (My dad set up a temporary shower in the basement years ago when my folks' bathroom was being redone.) Drink wine from covered cup with a straw while hired spa lady tends to your legs. What do you think?

    I just look at that beautiful kiddo and can't imagine you being a failure...

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  2. failure schmailure! Just wait till you have another one and you'll realize it's not your fault, none of it. Of course if Felix is it then you'd better just listen to me and you'll be fine. hahahahahaha

    chips and dip tonight?

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  3. cute and happy baby indeed! look at that smile! I love seeing the pics.

    And I do like your list ot things to do. We have "plant a vegetable garden" on our list but first the hubby insists he has to build raised beds for it, then we have to purchase dirt and compost, and finally (sometime next year maybe), I can put the seeds in. Here in Alaska, the growing period may be short but the days are so long that everything turbo grows.

    But if I don't get those seeds in the ground, we aren't having veggies from the garden. Somebody tell my hubby that I'm due in 2 weeks and we have to get a move on.

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  4. A happy and contented baby is what's important and if the formula does it, then so be it!

    Part "boobie milk" (as my 3 year old calls it) is still better than no boobie milk and still there are plenty of babies who thrive on no boobie milk.

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  5. Damn your little one is a cutie!! And he sleeps that much, too, wow!!

    PS - go get a manicure or pedicure. That is my new outing at least once every few weeks. And go see a movie by yourself.

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  6. Love all the pictures he's so adorable. You are a great mum!

    Monkey Boy needs to be on the assist soon and make at least one of those listy things come true for you.

    Much Love *hugs*

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  7. Here in the time of Charlemagne, I am in a Mom's group - made up of five women. When we all had our first children only ONE out of the five of us was able to easily nurse the baby. Two weren't able to do it at all. One made it 9 months and I sqeaked out 6 on drugs, fenugreek, "mommy tea" and all that crap. It's a wonder the human race survived at all - and the whole notion of a wet nurse makes a hell of a lot more sense to me now. How come it's so f-ing hard? ARG!!

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  8. Oh, sweet Panda... I'm so sorry to hear you've been so hard on yourself... I wish I were there so that I could do a Panda is a Princess day for you! I give kick-ass pedicures and you could just chill while Spud's doing his boob thang.

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  9. Here in the time of Charlemagne, I am in a Mom's group - made up of five women. When we all had our first children only ONE out of the five of us was able to easily nurse the baby. Two weren't able to do it at all. One made it 9 months and I sqeaked out 6 on drugs, fenugreek, "mommy tea" and all that crap. It's a wonder the human race survived at all - and the whole notion of a wet nurse makes a hell of a lot more sense to me now. How come it's so f-ing hard? ARG!!

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  10. Tessy2:41 am

    A happy and contented baby is what's important and if the formula does it, then so be it!

    Part "boobie milk" (as my 3 year old calls it) is still better than no boobie milk and still there are plenty of babies who thrive on no boobie milk.

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  11. failure schmailure! Just wait till you have another one and you'll realize it's not your fault, none of it. Of course if Felix is it then you'd better just listen to me and you'll be fine. hahahahahaha

    chips and dip tonight?

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  12. Damn your little one is a cutie!! And he sleeps that much, too, wow!!

    PS - go get a manicure or pedicure. That is my new outing at least once every few weeks. And go see a movie by yourself.

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